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I powered this ebook almost entirely with my own strangely obsessive energy, so you can blame me for any mistakes. If you find coding errors, broken internal links, or whatever, then I invite you to email me and let me know so I can update the file! I'm available at clarisse.thorn@gmail.com.

This is version 1.2 of The S&M Feminist. The resource list, glossary, and formatting have all been updated.

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BDSM Resources

BDSM is a 6-for-4 deal of an acronym that stands for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and/or Masochism. Some people call it S&M, B&D, leather, fetish, or kink. BDSM can mean very different things to different people, and there are a lot of activities that can fall under the BDSM umbrella; such activities might include spanking, Master/slave role-playing, handcuffs, cages, rape fantasies, razor blades, or all kinds of other things.

I mention a lot of resources in the articles that I've included in this book, but I wanted to include an overview at the beginning, too.

Hands down, I believe that one of the most important resources within the BDSM community is the Kink Aware Professionals list. If you are seeking medical, legal or other professional help for a problem that is influenced by alternative sexuality, there is probably someone on the list who can help you. When I was going through my own complicated and difficult BDSM coming-out process, I tried two therapists from the KAP list. One of them didn't really get me, but the second was wonderfully helpful -- so, if you're looking for a therapist, don't be afraid to shop around until you find the right fit. The list is here: https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals-directory/kap-directory-homepage.html

Want more information on how BDSM interfaces with the psychiatric establishment? I've compiled the research here: http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/05/07/the-psychology-of-sm/

Books

In 2012, the legendary educator Tristan Taormino released The Ultimate Guide To Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge, which is supposed to be amazing. I haven't read it myself, though.

My personal favorite beginner BDSM books are The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy. If you look for those books on Amazon.com, you will also see a lot of interesting related books in the "Customers Who Bought This Item Also Bought" section. I remember liking Jay Wiseman's SM101, although I know some people who have mixed feelings about it; a number of people recommend Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns by Philip Miller and Molly Devon, but I've never read it myself.

If you're thinking of coming out to a loved one, I recommend the book When Someone

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